Tuesday, March 15, 2011

The Proposal

So as promised, here are the details of my proposal of marriage to the future Mrs. Melissa Jane Engstrom Livingston, not to be confused with Melissa Madeline Weilenmann Livingston, heretofore referred to with the self-given title of “Mama Melissa.”

Anyways, the following is a tale of masterful trickery and near perfect planning. I hope you enjoy:

I am a gentleman of high propriety; I am old fashioned and believe in tradition. I could not think of asking for my sweetheart’s hand in marriage without first consulting her parent and receiving their permission. I also wanted to follow Melissa’s desire to fully and completely surprised by the proposal of marriage and not tip her off by letting her know of my meeting with her parents. This past Thursday, Bert and Eileen, her father and mother, came into town to see his sister’s play being performed at the University of Utah. Under the guise of church meetings, I was able to sneak over to their hotel and over the course of conversation, ascertained permission to marry their daughter. So now with the third-base coach waving home, it was time to put a plan in action.

I had been suffering from the dreaded disease mononucleosis for the past month or so, requiring me to take lots of naps. These “naps” (not all were real) gave me more than the usual amount of time to gather the necessary items to propose marriage to someone. I bought an absolutely lovely engagement ring during one such nap, and proceeded to ask Melissa several weeks later to remind me what styles of rings she likes so I could find the perfect one. This threw her off my scent. One weekend Melissa went down to Cedar City for burton’s (her nephew) birthday party. I really would have liked to go, but being sick, I stayed home and instead bought an old table, sanded it, painted it, and then antiqued it. It turned out beautiful. I hid it under a tarp in my basement.

The finished Table


So Saturday, the twelfth of March came along, and I had to take another nap. This time I was at the floral shop and hobby lobby buying some last minute decorations. Then I got ready to accompany Melissa and her family to the play.

Now a little caveat: I would like to just say how great this play was. I was seriously impressed by the characters and the way I, as a member of the audience, became invested in the plight of one Ignaz Semmelweis. This man was a medical pioneer, whose discoveries could have saved thousands of lives if the established minds of the day would have just listened to what he had to say. Instead, he was laughed to scorn and ended up dying in an insane asylum It was very compelling.

After the play and our congratulations to Melissa’s aunt Fae for the terrific job on the play, we started driving back to Provo. The time was approximately ten p.m. As we drove, Melissa began to doze off, and I began to sweat profusely. My prescription strength antiperspirant was no match for my nerves. As I took the Orem center street exit she awoke and wondered where we were. I told her that we were just in Orem and asked if she wanted to go on a little adventure. That piqued her attention and gave her a shot of energy. We began to dance to ke$ha as we drove towards the mountains overlooking Utah Valley.
At this point, Melissa had no idea what was going to come. She thought that we were just on a search to find the best view in Provo. She did not know that I had bought a ring or talked to her parents about the prospect of marriage. We continued to climb the foothills of Provo until we reached a huge house near the dead-end of a street. I parked the car and asked “Are you ready for the dangerous part of our adventure?”

“What are we doing?” there was a tinge of nervousness in her voice. “Are we breaking and entering.”

I got out of the car and started to cross the street towards the large iron gate in front of the house. She followed a few steps behind me. I turned around, “Get out of the light, don’t let anyone see you!”

I walked up to the gate and typed in the access code, and it slowly swung open.
“Whose house is this?” she asked.

“I don’t know.”

The gate fully opened and we walked into the front yard.

“Okay, run! There are dogs and they’ll get us!” I grabbed her hand and she screamed as we started running across the front lawn to escape the imaginary dogs.

We went through a small chain-link fence into the back yard, and there was a gazebo overlooking the entire valley. A sign hung across read “Greg & Melissa.”

The Decorated Gazebo


“Looks like it was made just for us,” I commented.

“Yeah, it has our name on it!” she said.

(Parenthetically I will add that this is the moment when she realized what was going on.)

We walked into the gazebo and saw the table I had made a few weeks back decorated with flowers, rose petals, love poems, and a book. She began to read some of the poems and asked if I had written them.

The Decorated Table

“No, “ I said, “but I did write this.” I handed her the small book and she began to read it.
“A love story. By Gregory Scott Livingston. Dedicated to Melissa Jane Engstrom.”
She proceeded to read all about how we had fallen in love and now never want to be apart from one another. In the last pages, she found a cut-out in which her ring was tied-in with ribbon. I dropped to one knee and asked for her to be mine forever. And then she said “YES!”

The Book (hand bound by Mama Melissa) with the Ring


I put the ring on her finger and we proceeded to spend the next hour jumping around in the gazebo, too happy to know what to do next. After it had begun to settle in, we drove back to her apartment where our friends and family were waiting to congratulate us.

It's so shiny!


It really could not have been more perfect. I have to thank one more time my roommates Kendrick and Preston, along with my former roommate Jared and his new roommate Mindy, and my little sister Megan for their help in decorating the gazebo and Melissa’s sister Camille for help in coordinating all of the events. It really was perfect.

Sunday, March 13, 2011

My Fiance

So, for today's post, i have to introduce a new contributing author. Her name is Melissa Jane Engstrom and she is the love of my life. We just got engaged and the details of that (including photos) will be coming shortly, once the english language expands enough to express how happy we are. Until then, the following is an essay she wrote describing us:

He is right handed; I am left. He is athletic; I am crafty. He is an English major; I can’t spell. He loves coconut; I don’t. He can’t tan; I can. He is from the east and I am from the west. He reads poetry; I listen to rap music. He cooks; I clean. We are different but we are also the same. We can’t dance. We can’t sing. We both are 6 feet tall. We love our families. He thinks I am beautiful and I think he is the most wonderful person in the entire world. We are in LOVE and this is how it happened.

Last Spring, I found myself back in Provo moving into a new place with an old friend. I left Provo, UT in the fall of 2008 and would spend the next 18 months of my life living in Montana with no prospects for marriage, no dating and no desire to look. I had been in my new apartment for approximately 10 minutes before the man I would marry entered my front door. His name was Greg and he had come over to see someone else. Whatever his reasons for coming over, we spoke for five minutes and bonded over our use of coupons and TV shows from our past. He left, wanting to get to know me better. I left our first meeting not thinking anything more of him. I was awkward and scared of boys. I hadn’t thought about dating in forever. My game was rusty; I couldn’t remember how to flirt but Greg was patient. (He has always been the firm, constant one in our relationship.) Our first date was a month later; our second date was two days after the first, and the third the next day. Months later we found ourselves in love and a few more months later wanting to spend forever together.


She is so wonderful and despite her protests saying that the title belongs to her, i am the luckiest!

Sunday, September 19, 2010

My Mother's Brithday

Today is my angel mother's birthday. As she is the one that brought me into this world, i wrote her a poem to thank her for her love and care for me throughout the years, even when i wasn't the best son.

When as a child I knew only reliance.
You were my source for life, for living.
Even in time of greatest defiance,
You stood by always loving and giving.

With sweet adoration I now recall
Those childhood days of learning and growth.
Realizing your love strikes not small
On my heart, seeing love’s sacred oath.

Time has passed by, now I understanding,
A mother’s care having so long received.
She, never with force and never demanding,
Made me the man I am today perceived.

Now I wait for our roles to reverse,
When I care for you and love reimburse.

I love you Mom, and am so grateful for everything you have done for me!

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Go Do

Back, almost 6 months ago, as the cold of winter was melting into springtime, i made a post titled “the Adventure.” it was about the song of the same title by Angels and Airwaves and how my life is an adventure that i want to make full and successful so that i can say at the end that “I am all used up.” To finish the summer i want to use another song. This one is by and Icelandic man by the name Jonsi of the band sigur ros. The song is called “Go Do” and it does nothing but inspire happiness.





Here are the lyrics:

Go sing, too loud
Make your voice break- Sing it out
Go scream, do shout
Make an earthquake...

You wish fire would die and turn colder
You wish young eyes could see you grow older
We should always know that we can do anything

Go drum, too proud
Make your hands ache - Play it out
Go march through crowds
Make your day break...

You wish silence released noisy drummers
You wish white noise surrendered to summers
We should always know that we can do everything

Go do, you'll know how to
Just let yourself, fall into landslide

Go do, you'll know how to
Just let yourself, give into flood tide

Go do!

Tie strings to clouds
Make your own lake - Let it flow
Throw seeds to sprout
Make your own break - Let them grow

Let them grow (Endless summers)
Let them grow (Endless summers)

(Go do endless summers)

You wish surprise would never stop wonders
You wish sunrise would never fall under

You wish surprise would never stop wonders
You wish sunrise would never fall under
We should always know that we can do anything

Go do!

The last few months have been some of the most wonderful of my life. Anyone keeping up with my blog will understand that this summer has been a tribute to the romantic image we all hold of childhood summers. It has been full of laughter, excitement, and discovery. Discovery not just of the world around me, but the world within me. I’ve learned a lot about myself, about what is really important to me, and what will make me happy in life. The summer represents opportunity laid before us, golden as the sun, and just as warm and inviting.

I was talking to a friend the other day about our attitudes towards life. A lot of times we aren’t willing to take the opportunities placed in front of us. We find ourselves petrified by fear. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, even the fear of settling. To such a paralyzing attitudes Shakespeare wrote “There is a tide in the affairs of men, which taken at the flood leads on to fortune. Omitted, and all the voyage of their lives is bound in shallows and in miseries. Upon such a full sea are we now afloat, and we must take the current when it serves or lose our ventures.”

In a matter of weeks school will begin again. My life will once again become busy, full of responsibility in work and study. The air will begin to cool, and the days will become shorter. The leaves will begin to change color, darkening, aging, yet adding more beauty and richness to the world that surrounds us. They will eventually fall and flutter from their branches, marking the season’s change. Yet despite the change in surrounding, our hearts will remain true to what we have learned, what we have experienced. We can do anything. We will find our new opportunities, and in that sense we extend the season of possibility, creating an endless summer, fighting off the cold of winter with the warmth we keep in our hearts.